IT’S A STRUGGLE!

26 responses to “BUT THE FACTS ARE TRUE!”

1. It's time to make the donuts September 26th, 2012 at 17:45

   Just wondering would it be possible to re edit the book?and make it reader friendly.Her story could touch so many more people of abuse.

2. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 26th, 2012 at 18:09

   Thank you It’s time to make the donuts…

3. Paula Kling Luciano September 27th, 2012 at 12:11

   I don’t know where all these sudden literary geniuses are coming from. I read constantly, I have read the classics and I have read first time authors like Rosaura. For some one with little journalistic education and no true professional editor to help her, she did a pretty fine job, in my opinion for her first book. No it is not Tolstoy. it is a raw account of her story as she wanted to tell it.

   Read it, don’t read it, but really, I challenge any of those who find the book poorly written to sit down and try to write a book as I have and many times and failed. It is not as easy as some think it is.

   Rosaura should have had professional help with her book, but it was more important to get her message out to help others than to worry about becoming a classic.

   For those by the way, who criticize the first chapter, keep reading, by chapter 4 I could not put it down!

4. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 12:58

   Paula, thank you so much for all your support.

   God bless.

5. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 13:00

   I realize there are some who may not like my book, some who find it very difficult to follow…I refuse to defend myself….I am not a great scholar, I do not have higher education, no PHD, MD, Ed I have no degrees, nothing, I am a survivor of Domestic Violence who decided to take the time and write my story…there are so many awesome, wonderful, dynamic survivors who have great stories….Please write your story.

   This is my book, my story of survival of Domestic Violence, there are some who may not like my book, to those who do not like my book or may find it difficult to follow. My advice is, write your book….Tell your story….I wrote mine, I refuse to apologize for writing my book….This is my survival….My journey! God bless.
   Author Rosaura Torres

6. Becky September 27th, 2012 at 13:11

   That is not the answer, Rosa! Fix your book! An editor is listed in the book. Many, many years ago I worked at the Philadelphia Tribune and I told them that people don’t trust a newspaper that has misspelled words. If they can’t get that right, what can they get right?

   On page 45 of her book, Rosa is talking about her wedding veil. Three times in the paragraph it is spelled “vale.” The last two times in the paragraph it is spelled “veil.” That is unacceptable. Period.

   I said “the facts are true.” The fact that it is poorly written and edited mean less people will read it and they won’t take it as seriously.

   P.S. One of my favoite Tridune stories is here: http://www.lipnews.com/gpage1.html and ends here: http://www.lipnews.com/Tribunedays2.html. Notice how the boxes make the story very hard to read and why I had to abandon the first site? It’s similar to reading Rosa’s book.

7. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 13:14

   Wow….Write your book Becky, I would love to read it….I am sure it would be outstanding….

8. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 13:19

   I don’t want to fix it, I am real, I know there are mistakes but….It’s me,it’s my book…My flaws. My vision is a struggle but…I did it, I come from a poor but humble life, my parents did not have higher education but…they were great parents..With all the flaws, I know I have touched so many SURVIVORS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

9. Becky September 27th, 2012 at 13:20

   For the time being, Rosa, my book is the nine years of writing this site. When I do publish an actual book, you will be the first to know.

10. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 13:21

    It will be a honor to read your book Becky.

11. Becky September 27th, 2012 at 13:27

    Yes, I know about it. I’m a SURVIVOR OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE as well and took out a PFA against my son’s father and had to personally deliver it to where he was staying during a snow storm. I do know a little bit about the topic!

12. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 13:42

    Yes you do, I learned as survivors we never shame,blame or guilt one another…We protected one another…We live with the memory of the abuse…or what we can’t remember….I for one cannot remember some of the abuse but…My children do. They will not speak of it now but…My oldest reminded me of a incident in the bathroom. I am a protector of Survivors and Victims of Domestic Violence…I have women from all over the world thanking me for writing my book with flaws…They are now speaking out, standing strong…My book does not matter, what matters is how we as a society should come together to bring DOMESTIC VIOLENCE to an END…

13. Paula Kling Luciano September 27th, 2012 at 13:50

    No offense to anyone, but when did this become a page criticizing a book that has been previously promoted on this site and many others? How have we gone from teh messge of domestic abuse to all becoming book critics? Just a question? Just wondering?

14. Becky September 27th, 2012 at 13:56

    Page 217 and 218:

    Poor Mark [Keith Sadler], he even thought I was going to speak to the newspaper where he was now the new Chief of Police in the little town where I was severely injured. Of all the places for Mark to become the new Chief of Police, he chose the same town where the state trooper had abused and abandoned me.

    My anger for Mark was gone. I will always remember the abuse he put me through and I am sure he will always remember me cheating on him. No matter what, the memory of the abuse will live with me for the rest of my life. I made it quite clear to Mark that I had no intention to speak to the newspaper; I wanted to make peace and move on. My mother slways said I had to forgive because if I didn’t forgive I would not have been able to move on. Mark made sure that I received my part of the pension and I was grateful for all his help.

15. Becky September 27th, 2012 at 13:58

    Women all over the world? You told me you hadn’t sold many books. You questioned my comment about a Facebook friend saying it was a struggle to read because you hadn’t sold many books??????

16. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 14:04

    Yes, that is true….I am a better person…I know the abuse I went through by Keith was wrong and I will not allow anyone to BLAME, SHAME OR GUILT ME…No matter how much complaining and speaking out against Keith and Anthony, it will never give me back my full vision…Hating him is wrong…Many woman, children and men become drug abuser, abusive drinkers, in may case…I was looking for that someone who would truly love me….I found that person and that person is me. I pity men like Keith and Anthony, when they are old and taking there last breath, they will break down….I am free, free from the abuse….Free to help others…Poor Keith and Anthony, they are bitter…Angry because I refused to keep silent!

17. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 14:09

    Becky, no need to discuss my book any further.

18. Rosaura Torres Sadler September 27th, 2012 at 14:12

    Paula, I agree….God bless, let’s come together to help others.

19. Becky September 27th, 2012 at 14:48

    Well, I guess Paula and Rosa are riding into the sunset together! What, no “God bless” for me? Rosa, this is my site and I’ll talk about what I want to talk about when I want to talk about it! I’ll discuss whatever I want to discuss.

    And Paula, I will critique a book if I feel it is warranted. I have just as much right and background to do so as LNP’s Jane Holahan has to critique a theater or TV show! Probably more!

20. Paula Kling Luciano September 27th, 2012 at 15:47

    WHOA!!!! What have I gotten into? Becky no way I am criticizing wht you write on your blog. NO NO!!! I only questioned why after all this time the book is being dumped on now. That was my question. I absolutely respect you and your right to post here what you wish. I also have a blog and no one tells me what to write. i would never ever do that. I simply questioned the timing of this negatvie view of the book. That is it.

21. Becky September 27th, 2012 at 16:13

    Paula, it’s entirely my fault! I didn’t read the book until this Tuesday and Wednesday. More will come tomorrow.

22. Paula Kling Luciano September 27th, 2012 at 16:15

    All good Becky–You do not owe me an explanation. just please never think I will tell you how to manage your blog. That is not who I am.

23. Rednek September 27th, 2012 at 17:42

    I think it is well past time that personal correspondence be kept personal and not posted on this website. I feel for those that have been subjected to domestic violence or any type of family abuse. However, this is not the forum for a long-running personal dialogue between 2 or three parties.

24. anonymous2 September 27th, 2012 at 19:51

    Becky’s site = Becky makes the rule, writes what she wants, sets the tone. We are guests here.

    Rosa’s book = Rosa writes what Rosa wants to write, she writes the way she wants to write, she gets to pick, and the final product is hers.

    Readers of both make their own judgments about veracity, readability, and whether they are glad they read it or not.

    Posters here discuss stuff. Isn’t that the point of the comment section?

25. carol power September 27th, 2012 at 22:12

    Rosa …Thank you for trying to help others in your situation …stay strong….your words will help someone even if it’s not perfect like that one mister perfect guy stated …I didn’t get time to read it yet but want to and want to give a copy to my mother!

26. huh? September 28th, 2012 at 03:16

    Becky, I was surprised that you hadn’t read the book until this past week. I was under the impression that you’d read the book.